PsycHacks Episode 235: Why pre-screening dates is a bad idea
Oct 13, 2022
Exploring the pitfalls of pre-screening in online dating, the discussion highlights how this approach can stifle genuine connections. It reveals that relying on pre-screening questions may lead to misguided assumptions about potential partners. Emphasizing the value of direct engagement, the talk advocates for allowing relationships to unfold naturally, ultimately guiding listeners towards more meaningful interactions.
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Defining Pre-Screening
- Pre-screening interrupts the dating flow to further qualify a man before meeting.
- Examples include asking "what are you looking for?" or demanding a Zoom call.
Job Interview Comparison
- Dr. Taraban likens early dating questions to job interviews that push candidates to give desirable answers.
- Men often say what keeps the opportunity open rather than revealing real preferences.
Most Desired Men Have Many Options
- Women swipe very selectively, so a small group of men receive most likes and therefore many options.
- Pre-screening tends to disqualify you from those men who can choose enthusiastic dates.