Savvy Psychologist

5 thought patterns that can make or break your relationship

Oct 9, 2024

Dive into five key thought patterns that shape relationships! Discover how selective attention and attributions can lead to misunderstandings. Practical techniques help shift mindsets for healthier connections. Learn to counteract detrimental thoughts and adopt perspectives that enhance relational satisfaction. Transform your approach and build a more balanced bond with your partner.

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Selective attention can skew perceptions in relationships, making partners focus on negatives while overlooking positives, which ultimately harms connection.

Implementing techniques like cognitive restructuring and positive tracking can help individuals cultivate a healthier, balanced mindset towards their partners.

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The Impact of Selective Attention in Relationships

Selective attention plays a crucial role in how individuals perceive their partners, often leading to a focus on negative behaviors while ignoring positive contributions. For instance, one partner might fixate on their significant other leaving dirty dishes, completely overlooking their efforts to cook and clean. This tendency can create frustration and misconceptions about the partner's overall character, as seen in the example of Jane and Tom. Over time, this skewed perception can damage relationship satisfaction and harmony by fostering negative beliefs that are not reflective of the actual dynamics in the partnership.

Five Cognitions That Impact Relationships

5min

Transforming Relationship Perspectives: Techniques for Improvement

6min

Exploring the five key types of thoughts that can either build up or break down your relationship. By understanding selective attention, attributions, and other relationship cognitions, you can change how you view and interact with your partner. Learn practical techniques to shift your mindset and create a healthier, more balanced connection.

Savvy Psychologist is hosted by Dr. Monica Johnson. A transcript is available at Simplecast.

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