The Hidden 20% Refocus: Carrie & David Grant On A Neurospicy Family Christmas
Dec 24, 2025
Carrie Grant, a vocal coach and autism advocate, shares her journey of unmasking after her diagnosis, focusing on embracing neurodivergence during family festivities. David Grant, her husband and fellow vocal coach, discusses the challenges of ADHD assessment wait lists and their shared experiences as neurodivergent parents. Together, they highlight the importance of creating meaningful Christmas traditions that prioritize memories over material gifts, while letting go of societal pressures to redefine holiday joy for their family.
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Grace Overstaying Social Limits
- Carrie Grant says diagnosis increased her self-grace and awareness of sensory limits at social events.
- She now leaves early when depleted and reframes that as success, not weakness.
Diagnosis Gives Explanatory Power
- David Grant explains diagnosis gives language to behaviours and reduces self-blame.
- Seeing traits as 'characteristics of autism' legitimises feelings and removes the need to fix them.
Huge Family Christmas Tradition
- Carrie and David describe growing Christmas gatherings: 20 on Christmas Day and 120 on Boxing Day.
- They cook for days, sing around the piano and finish by midnight before retreating to rest.