Magical Overthinkers Overthinking About People Pleasing
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Jan 8, 2025 
In this insightful conversation, Patric Gagne, an author and former therapist, dives into the depths of people pleasing. Gagne, who candidly labels himself a sociopath, explores the fine line between genuine kindness and manipulation. He discusses the societal pressures fueling this behavior and shares how childhood experiences shape our need to keep others happy at the expense of our well-being. The duo also offers practical strategies for recognizing and overcoming unhealthy patterns, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and setting personal boundaries.
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People-Pleasing vs. Kindness
- People-pleasing differs from kindness; it's driven by a need for external validation.
- It creates a self-object dynamic, where one's worth depends on another's approval.
People-Pleasing Spectrum
- Not all people-pleasing is unconscious manipulation; context and degree matter.
- Some people-please when scared, creating inauthentic interactions.
Trauma Response
- People-pleasing is often a trauma response.
- It develops as a coping mechanism for pacifying volatile situations.
