Episode 307: Understanding Extrovert and Introvert with David Thomas and Sissy Goff

Sep 11, 2025

Discover how extroverted and introverted children navigate their worlds differently! This discussion dives into the strengths and challenges of each personality type, offering practical strategies for parents. Learn about emotional processing, the importance of friendships, and how to support introverted youth in social settings. With insights from beloved books, explore how to foster resilience and courage while embracing the unique gifts of every child. It's a celebration of diversity in personality that every parent will appreciate!

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INSIGHT

Introvert vs Extrovert Energy

Introverts refuel with solitude while extroverts gain energy from people and stimulation.
Introverts process internally and may respond after reflection, while extroverts react in the moment.

ADVICE

Prioritize Extroverted Girls' Friendships

Make your home kid-friendly and prioritize your extroverted girl's friendships as her love language.
Invite peers over and build relationships with their parents to support her social fuel and accountability.

ADVICE

Teach Extroverted Girls To Rest And Root

Require and teach extroverted girls to take regular alone time to learn self-trust and rest.
Help them find a "North Star" activity that builds competence outside friendships.

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We’re so excited about this episode, because we want every kid who may be extroverted or introverted to know that their gifts are amazing and that their limitations are amazing too!

We’re going to talk about 3 things parents of extroverted and introverted girls need to know and 3 things parents of extroverted and introverted boys need to know.

There’s a great book that we both love, The Hidden Gifts of the Introverted Child, by Marti Olsen Laney. Listen to this description of the differences, introverts generally prefer stimulation in small manageable doses whereas extroverts seek lots of action and excitement. An introvert may pursue topics in depth, while an extrovert may be more oriented toward breadth. An introvert may need time to process his/her emotions before responding. An extrovert is more likely to react in the moment. We’ve seen a lot of evidence of this being true. Another book we love, called Quiet, which also revolutionized my perspective on it, and I recommend it to parents of introverts all the time.

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⁠Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience⁠

⁠Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage⁠⁠

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