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Marriage Therapy Radio

Ep 359 Love, Pickleball, and Kitchen Knife Moments with Dr. Stormy Hill and Teri Citterman

Feb 11, 2025
45:10

Stepping into his new role as the solo host, setting the tone for a fresh era of the podcast Zach reflects on what’s ahead, expressing gratitude for listener support and outlining the exciting changes coming to the show.


Zach is joined by Dr. Stormy Hill and Teri Citterman https://loveandpickleball.net/, co-authors of In a Pickle: How to Master Love and Pickleball and Not Kill Each Other https://amzn.to/3QdMYhZ. They dive into how pickleball, the fastest-growing sport in the U.S., serves as a fascinating metaphor for relationships. From communication styles to competitive dynamics, they share personal stories and practical takeaways that couples can apply—whether on the court or in everyday life.


Even though Zach has never picked up a Pickleball paddle, he enjoys the conversation of how this sport fosters connection, builds emotional intelligence, and even teaches conflict resolution. Whether you’re a seasoned player or someone just curious about how play impacts relationships, this episode offers insight, laughter, and some surprising wisdom.

Key Takeaways

Pickleball as a Relationship Microcosm

  • Dr. Stormy Hill and Teri Citterman discuss how playing together exposes key relationship dynamics, from communication to trust and teamwork.
  • Couples often face “kitchen knife moments” (times of high frustration), but understanding emotional intelligence and boundaries can turn challenges into growth.

Lessons in Play and Connection

  • Playfulness is a vital component of a healthy relationship, and pickleball naturally fosters joy, teamwork, and lighthearted competition.
  • Safe words like “pineapple” and “pumpernickel” (borrowed from intimacy practices) can help couples navigate tension both on and off the court.

Avoiding Pickleball Divorces

  • Many couples struggle when one partner is more competitive than the other, leading to frustration on the court.
  • The first and second rules of pickleball? “Don’t be a dick.”
  • Emotional intelligence matters more than skill—whether in pickleball or marriage.

Applying Relationship Strategies from the Court

  • Love languages, intention-setting, and non-verbal communication play a huge role in both sports and relationships.
  • Understanding a partner’s strengths and weaknesses, just like in a doubles match, creates more harmony at home.


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