The Mark Groves Podcast #490: Why Presence Disappears the Moment Your Phone Appears
Dec 15, 2025
Discover the hidden stress caused by constant social evaluation through technology. A phone on the table can diminish empathy and conversation quality. Delve into how algorithms shape our relationships and create anxiety. Learn about the biological mismatch with rapid technological changes and its effects on safety signals. Gain insights on setting boundaries for technology, so it enhances rather than detracts from your life. Embrace a mindful approach to technology without shame.
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Phones Reduce Presence Instantly
- A phone's mere presence reduces perceived conversational quality and empathy.
- People assume others are thinking about their phones, which erodes presence.
Leaving Instagram Changed Perspective
- Mark left Instagram and studied how technology affects the nervous system.
- That journey reframed his view: our phone relationship may be our most important relationship.
You’re Under Constant Social Evaluation
- Social media exposes you to evaluation by people you know, strangers, and an algorithm.
- That creates a constant sense of social surveillance for your nervous system.