The Happy Wife School Attachment Style Theory: Another Flawed Marriage Counseling Model
Nov 18, 2025
Dive into the flaws of Attachment Style Theory in marriage counseling. Discover how it often mislabels good men as problems and overlooks emasculation dynamics. Explore the idea that many women use therapy for validation rather than true emotional growth. Karyn challenges the narrative that upbringing solely dictates behavior, advocating for personal responsibility. Unpack the notion that attachment strategies promote codependency rather than independence, and learn empowering alternatives for both women and men.
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What Attachment Style Theory Claims
- Attachment style theory links adult relationship patterns to early caregiver bonds and is widely used in couples therapy.
- Karyn Seitz argues this model shapes many counseling approaches despite limitations for real marriages.
Host's Personal Counseling Experience
- Karyn Seitz recounts dragging her husband to couples counseling early in marriage and trying attachment-style therapy.
- She says that experience shaped her skepticism about standard couples models.
Counselors Miss Emasculation Dynamics
- Karyn Seitz says couples counselors lack training to see emasculation and gaslighting dynamics in marriages.
- She claims therapists tend to accept women's victim stories and bias treatment against men.