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Quick takeaways
- Marriage is a foundational component of society that the left opposes, seeing it as a restriction to individual free choice and a barrier to their utopian vision.
- Rapid societal changes can set off a slippery slope of further changes with unintended consequences, questioning the fundamental tenets of society.
- Decisions about societal issues should be made by the people through democratic processes, not by judges or self-appointed elites, to maintain accountability and prevent social order breakdown.
- Thomas Sowell questions the role of judges in deciding on gay marriage and emphasizes the left's historical efforts to undermine the institution of marriage.
- Interracial and intercultural marriages can bring positive aspects like merging cultures, but they can also lead to challenges like identity conflicts and erosion of individual identities and rights.
Deep dives
The Importance of Marriage
Marriage is a fundamental component of a social order that the left opposes. The left sees marriage as a social restriction on individual free choice and as a barrier to quickly creating the utopian society they desire. They have been working to undermine marriage for centuries, redefining the words marriage and family to include whatever kind of people want to live together in whatever way they choose. However, studies show that married couples are generally better off than unmarried couples, with higher incomes and lower rates of domestic violence and child abuse.
The Slippery Slope of Change
Society is experiencing rapid and significant changes in various areas, such as gender identity, voting methods, and social norms. These changes often set off a slippery slope of further changes which may have unintended consequences. Once the fundamental tenets of society are questioned, everything becomes open for debate and redefinition. This rapid pace of change can be unsettling and may lead to unforeseen societal shifts.
The Role of Who Decides
One key aspect of societal changes is the question of who should make decisions about these issues. Soel argues that the decisions should be left to the people, not judges or other self-appointed elites. The power to decide should be in the hands of the voting public, as they are the ones whose lives are directly impacted by these changes. By bypassing the will of the people, decisions are made without accountability and can lead to a breakdown in social order.
Controversy of Gay Marriage
Gay marriage has been a highly controversial issue, with opinions differing among individuals, politicians, and the judiciary. The legalization of gay marriage has raised concerns about the redefinition of marriage and the potential consequences for society. Soel questions the role of judges in deciding this issue and argues that the decision should be made by the people through democratic processes. He also highlights the historical efforts by the left to undermine the institution of marriage.
Interracial and Intercultural Marriage
The podcast episode discusses the speaker's personal experience with intermarriage, specifically between an Indian woman and a Jewish man. The speaker highlights the initial absence of concern for racial and cultural differences and emphasizes the positive aspects of merging cultures and families. However, the speaker acknowledges that intermarriage can also present challenges, such as identity conflicts and a potential dilution of culture. The unintended consequences of intermarriage, including the erosion of individual identities and disputes over laws and rights, are also addressed.
The Importance of Love in Relationships
The podcast episode touches on Thomas Sowell's essay, 'Love is a Four-letter Word,' discussing the significance of love in human relationships. It explores the role of love in providing care, support, and bonding within families and societies. The episode reflects on the current cultural climate, where love is often undervalued and overshadowed by societal trends and the desire for control over interpersonal relationships. It suggests that the devaluation of love and the focus on rights and materialism can lead to the breakdown of intimate connections and the erosion of social bonds.
Unintended Consequences and the Slippery Slope
The podcast episode delves into the concept of unintended consequences and the slippery slope in various contexts, including marriage and societal issues. It discusses how well-intentioned laws and movements, such as the #MeToo movement, can have unintended negative impacts on relationships and interactions between men and women. The episode highlights the importance of considering long-term consequences and the potential erosion of trust, personal freedom, and social dynamics when implementing changes without careful consideration of their wider effects.
The Power of Marriage as a Third Entity
Marriage is not just the combination of two individuals; it creates something greater than the sum of its parts. When a man and a woman unite, they create a new thing called 'us.' It is not just about accomplishing tasks together, but it is about creating an atmosphere, an environment, and an inspiration for the relationship to grow further.
The Importance of Roles and Purpose in Marriage
Marriage requires following a set of rules and roles that are unique to its conservative and traditional construct. Applying these rules to alternative forms of relationships may not yield the same results. However, maintaining a sense of purpose and filling the relationship with meaning is crucial. This can be achieved through shared missions, business ventures, charity work, or adopting different outlets for personal growth.
This episode explores Thomas Sowell's views on love and marriage.
In his 1980 book "Knowledge and Decisions," Sowell tells the story of two farmers working one plot of land, and we use that story as a metaphor for the foundations of marriage.
I interview Dovid Feldman, who I view as a true expert on the subject of marriage.
Dovid is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. His specialty is the institution of marriage and what couples can do to strengthen their marriages.
He recently published a book called 52 Tweets to a Great Marriage; you're going to want to read this book and you can find it HERE.
You can find Dovid on Twitter here: @dovidfeldman, his tweets always inspire me.
His website is: dovidfeldman.com
If you're looking for a great couple's therapist, your search is over...contact him.
Dovid and I discuss many related subjects:
• Family and children
• Sowell's views on gay marriage
• Intermarriage
• The differences between men and women
The podcast takes an unexpected twist when our wives join us toward the end of the episode:
Dovid's wife is Miriam Feldman and you can find her book "God Said What?" HERE.
Alan's wife is Priyanka Wolan and you can find her Substack "Strap on a Pear" HERE.
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