Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Mean Words, Aggressive Behavior, Stalling, and Other Signs Kids Need Our Help

Sep 19, 2023

Janet Lansbury provides guidance on responding effectively to children's behaviors, including aggression, name-calling, and stalling. She emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for children to express their emotions and offers strategies to help children become self-motivated. Janet also explores how to address aggressive behavior in a child and emphasizes the significance of managing behavior while encouraging children to express themselves.

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Recognize that children's discomfort is not personal and separate it from our own feelings.

Create a safe space for children to express their discomfort and process their emotions.

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Helping Children Deal with Discomfort

Children often show signs of discomfort, and it is important for parents to recognize that it is not personal. Their discomfort is not a reflection of the parent's actions or shortcomings. The first way to help children in these situations is to separate their discomfort from our own feelings of discomfort. By doing so, parents can see their children more clearly and avoid exacerbating the situation. The second way to help is to encourage children to express their feelings in their own way and time. Young children may not have the ability to fully articulate their feelings, so it is important to create an environment where they feel safe to share and offload their emotions.

Introduction

3min

Helping Children Deal with Discomfort and Expressing Feelings

3min

Encouraging Children to Express Their Feelings

11min

Helping a Six-Year-Old Become Self-Motivated

9min

Addressing Aggressive Behavior in a Child

12min

De-escalating Tension and Welcoming a Child's Rebellion

2min

Janet responds to several messages from parents who feel stumped as to how to respond effectively to their children's behaviors. A 4-year-old has been lashing out at his mom and schoolmates. A kindergartner calls her brother "stupid.” Another kindergartner can't pull herself together to get to school on time without her mother doing 95% of the work. Janet offers general guidelines for responding to unsettled children and, more specifically, how her suggestions can be applied to easing the behavior issues in each of these scenarios.

Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: NoBadKidsCourse.com.

Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, Google Play, and free at Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ) with a trial subscription.

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