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Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

The LET THEM Theory Will Change Your Life

Feb 27, 2025
51:55

BBC is BACK, baby! Welcome back to Benson Book Club—your monthly deep dive into books that actually hit. Every fourth week, we break down a chapter that changes the game and today, we’re cracking open The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins.

 “Your energy is better spent on what you can control: YOU.” – Mel Robbins

Translation? Stop trying to control people who don’t text back, don’t show up, or don’t give you what you want. LET THEM. And then? Watch your life get so much easier.

This episode covers:

  • Why chasing people is a waste of time
  • Why You’re Exhausted Trying to Control People – The #1 mistake we all make when we try to “fix” or “convince” others. (Spoiler: It never works.)
  • How to Stop Taking Things Personally – When someone ghosts, disrespects you, or doesn’t show up the way you want—here’s how to instantly stop giving a f*ck.
  •  The Freedom of LETTING THEM – What happens when you stop chasing, stop forcing, and just let people do whatever they want? (Hint: Your life gets 100x easier.)
  •  Your Energy is YOURS—Take It Back – You don’t need their approval. You don’t need closure. You need to focus on YOURSELF.
  • The Magic of The LET THEM and Let Me Theory – The second you apply this, you’ll start feeling lighter, happier, and completely unbothered.


If you’re tired of overthinking, over-explaining, and over-giving—this episode is for YOU.

Hit play, and let’s talk about it. 🎧🔥 #LetThem #AlmostAdulting #MelRobbins

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