Almost Adulting with Violet Benson

Why Women Are Choosing Younger MenThis week on Almost Adulting, I’m joined by the power couple that broke the internet—and probably a few age-gap double standards. Caroline Stanbury (yes, that Caroline from Ladies of London and Real Housewives of Dubai) and her hot husband Sergio (ex-pro footballer, full-time golden retriever energy) are here to prove that age is just a number—and chemistry is undefeated.We’re talking:Vagina Watch 2016—where the love story beganSleeping together early (and why Sergio needed a second chance)The car he tried to hide and Caroline’s brutal reactionThe perks of dating younger: stamina, TikTok fluency, and unapologetic oral sexBotox, poo talk, and why confidence > collagenWhy their relationship makes people uncomfortableDating across a language barrier and how Sergio really feltHaters, labels, and how to flip judgment into powerPlus: is dating a younger man the secret to crafting the emotionally available partner your therapist keeps promising?If you’ve ever been judged for who you love, questioned if you’re too old to start over, or just want the tea on naked confidence and facelifts—this one’s for you! Grab your AirPods. And maybe a younger man, and hit play.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you ever feel weirdly lonely in your relationships? Like you’re the one always doing the work—overthinking, overgiving, overfunctioning—and you still feel...empty? You’re not crazy. You might just have grown up with an emotionally immature parent.In this special Benson Book Club episode, I break down the first chapter of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and walk you through the hidden patterns that are silently shaping your love life, self-worth, and ability to trust your instincts. From guilt for feeling unhappy, to people-pleasing, to dating men who “just don’t get it”—this episode unpacks all of it.This one’s for the girls who grew up being the emotional support system for everyone else, and are only now realizing that’s not normal. Let’s heal the inner child, stop normalizing dysfunction, and stop mistaking emotional starvation for love.Tag your best friend, take the quiz, cry a little, and reclaim your standards.Want an ad free podcast experience?? Subscribe to my ad free podcast at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:Nutrafol - Nutrafol is offering my listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol and enter the promo code ADULTING.Today's episode is brought to you by: Shopify!!! Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial and start selling today at shopify.com/AdultingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're in your twenties then listen to this.Your 20s are all about embracing mistakes, growth, and becoming the person you’re meant to be. In today's short episode, I’m sharing 20 things your 20s are too short for—like staying in toxic relationships, letting others define your worth, and holding back from living your best life. Plus, stick around for a powerful manifesting mantra at the end to help you shape the future you desire. <3See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This July, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to making a Leo man obsessed with YOU.Get ready to discover:🔥 What he craves in a partner—and how to become his ultimate desire.🔥 Foolproof ways to grab his attention and keep his spotlight on you.🔥 Subtle signs he’s losing interest—and how to win back his fiery passion.🔥 How to handle his bold personality and keep the romance alive.🔥 The best strategies to reignite the spark if things cool off.Leo men are the kings of romance, radiating confidence and charm like no other—this episode will show you how to claim his heart and keep it all yours. 🦁See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ring ring… hellllllo? It’s your big sis Violetta coming to your rescue!Hi besties!! It’s the second week of the month, and you know what that means: a brand new episode of Ask Violetta. But today, we’re doing things a little differently... We’re answering just one question. But not just any question—the one that haunts your group chat at 2am:“What if they’re your soulmate… but the timing’s off?”You swear they’re the one. Your twin flame. Your human dopamine hit. Every text gives you fanny flutters. But fate? She’s a petty little b*tch. Wrong place. Wrong time. Right person. It’s a tale as old as time… so what the hell do you do??? Listen to this episode obviously!So if that’s you, hit play. If it's your bestie, hit send. Because someone in your group chat needs to hear this before it's too late.By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly what to do. And if that means letting go? I’ve got you boo, with 9 steps to detach like the hot unbothered queen you were always meant to be.P.S. Don’t forget... the right people are timeless. <3Want an ad free podcast experience?? Subscribe to my ad free podcast at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by: Shopify!!! Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial and start selling today at shopify.com/AdultingSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why are we so f*cking mean to ourselves?This week, we’re diving deep into that nonstop voice in your head that tells you you’re not good enough, smart enough, hot enough, just... not enough. You’ll find out why it exists, how it got there, and how to finally shut it the hell up.We’re talking:· The real science behind your inner critic (yes, it’s a thing - it’s called the Default Mode Network)· Why comparing yourself to everyone on the internet is literally frying your brain (hi, Social Comparison Theory)· How to mentally separate from that toxic inner voice (Cognitive Diffusion, b*tch)· And how to give yourself the kind of love you’re always chasing from other people (Radical Self-Compassion...look it up, it’s life-changing)By the end of this, you’re going to understand that being hard on yourself isn’t some personality trait - it’s a survival habit you can unlearn. And we’re doing it together, one savage thought at a time.This episode is science, sass, and self-respect. Let’s go.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:Nutrafol - Nutrafol is offering my listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol and enter the promo code ADULTING.SIMPLY POP - Sip on the juicy side of life. Find out where you can try Simply Pop at cokeurl.com/simplyPOP !Feeld Dating - Download Feeld now on the App Store or Google Play and discover if you’re into relationship anarchySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Think you’re low-maintenance until they stop texting back? Can’t breathe unless you’re together 24/7? Sounds like you’ve got a ‘Quality Time’ love language. But don’t panic... needing time isn’t the problem, ignoring it is.Hi besties!! Today we’re breaking down everything you need to know about the second most common love language: Quality Time.So before you call it quits, LISTEN UP.If you’re feeling unloved, or they swear you’re “too needy,” this episode is your playbook. I’m breaking down how 'Quality Time' lovers give and receive love, so you can stop misreading the signs and start getting what you actually need.Send this to your partner (yes, I’m giving you the green light) or listen yourself if you’ve been dating someone who blows up your phone five minutes after you leave.Your clinginess? It’s not clingy.It’s love. Let’s talk about it.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if I told you the reason you don’t have your summer body… is because of your situationship?This week I’m joined by Sarah Perl, aka The Hot High Priestess, and we’re unpacking why your anxiety, trauma, and bad taste in men are literally showing up on your body.We go deep on:Why your nervous system is hoarding fat like it’s hoarding toxic menWhat it really takes to make a man obsessed with youHow to manifest your ex back - and when to notLaw of Detachment: stop obsessing, start attractingMasculine vs. feminine energy—and why you keep chasingHow to break the cycle of dating your daddy (again)How generational trauma lives in your hipsWhy you can’t find real love until you heal, and more!If you’ve ever cried over a man and gained five pounds after, this one’s for you :)Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:Shopify - Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial and start selling today at shopify.com/AdultingStasis - Don’t let Adderall make you feel like sh*t. Pair it with Stasis and get your focus, without the 3pm energy crash, moodiness, or restless nights. Get an extra 15% off your first purchase using my code VIOLET at checkout HERE!!!Nutrafol - Nutrafol is offering my listeners $10 off your first month’s subscription and free shipping when you go to Nutrafol and enter the promo code ADULTING.SIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This June, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting a Cancer man obsessed with YOU.Get ready to learn:🔥 What makes him the ultimate romantic—and how to use it to your advantage.🔥 Foolproof ways to connect with his sensitive side and make him feel safe with you.🔥 What he craves in a relationship (and what will push him away).🔥 The signs he’s withdrawing emotionally—and how to bring him back closer than ever.🔥 How to win him back if his shell has already closed off.Whether you’re drawn to his nurturing energy, already dating him, or trying to reignite the love, this episode will give you the ultimate guide to getting him to fall in love. So hit play now and make this June all about mastering the heart of the zodiac’s most caring sign!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You’re not single because you’re broken—maybe you’re just asking the wrong questions.In this deeply personal and hilariously honest solo episode, I share 30 questions you need to ask yourself if you’re serious about finding real love—not the situationship, not the trauma-bond, not the 2-week high followed by ghosting. We're talking love that lasts.I also open up for the first time about being deaf—how it’s made me feel small, different, and deeply afraid of being pitied… and how I moved past it.This is the episode where we stop waiting to be "healed enough" for love—and finally figure out what we actually want and deserve.Tune in if:You keep attracting the same wrong person in a different fontYou’re overthinking love to deathYou’re ready to be loved without fixing every flaw firstListen ‘til the end for the story that might just change how you see yourself—and love—forever.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:Adults Show - Watch FX’s Adults OUT NOW on FX. All Episodes Streaming on Hulu.Stasis - Don’t let Adderall make you feel like sh*t. Pair it with Stasis and get your focus, without the 3pm energy crash, moodiness, or restless nights. Get an extra 15% off your first purchase using my code VIOLET at checkout HERE!!!Feeld Dating - Download Feeld now on the App Store or Google Play and discover if you’re into relationship anarchySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.