Does A Dismissive Avoidant Look Through Your Phone?

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Few things feel more invasive than wondering if your partner is snooping through your phone. If they’re a Dismissive Avoidant, the thought can leave you feeling confused... aren’t they supposed to avoid closeness, not seek it?

 

In this episode, Thais Gibson unpacks when and why Dismissive Avoidants might snoop, what it really means about their level of investment, and how you can rebuild trust with healthier communication. Most importantly, you’ll learn how neuroscience, psychology, and ancient wisdom all point toward the same truth: trust grows through honesty, boundaries, and self-mastery.

 

You’ll learn:

✅ Why most Dismissive Avoidants avoid snooping—but what it means when they do

✅ The surprising link between snooping and long-term commitment fears

✅ How manipulation often shows up as an indirect attempt to meet needs

✅ Why low oxytocin makes trust harder for Dismissive Avoidants

✅ A practical exercise to uncover the real need behind snooping (and meet it directly)

✅ How to respond if you’ve been snooped on—without losing self-respect

✅ Why healthy boundaries, not control, are the foundation of secure love

 

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 – Intro

01:20 – Dismissive Avoidants Will Often Avoid Snooping

03:49 – What is Happening in Their Internal Reality?

07:50 – How to Heal From a Breakup Course Promo

08:48 – The Neuroscience Behind Snooping

10:09 – Step 1: What Outcomes and Needs Am I Looking for?

10:42 – Step 2: How Can I Better Meet This Need?

11:46 – Ancient Wisdom on Trust and Boundaries

12:54 – Conclusion

 

Meet the Host

Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

 

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