The 1000 Hours Outside Podcast 1KHO 653: Gain Deeper Relationships Through Dependence on Others | Kevan Chandler and Tommy Shelton, The Hospitality of Need
Dec 18, 2025
Join Kevan Chandler, a writer living with spinal muscular atrophy, and Tommy Shelton, a pastor, as they explore the transformative power of dependence in relationships. They share how letting others help can deepen friendships, reframing hospitality to include both giving and receiving. Kevan reveals how caregivers bring predictability and trust into his life, while Tommy discusses the significance of communal needs. Their insights challenge the stigma around vulnerability, inviting listeners to embrace their needs as a gateway to love and connection.
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Dependence Deepens Relationship
- Dependence can deepen relationships rather than weaken them.
- Kevan shows needs invite trust and predictable rhythms that foster brotherhood.
Morning Care Becomes Reliable Brotherhood
- Men who help Kevan each morning described the time as a predictable, quality rhythm in their lives.
- One helper said that weekly mornings with Kevan were the only steady piece of connection during a chaotic season.
Receive Help With Gratitude
- Receive needs with gratitude instead of apology; say, 'It's my joy.'
- Giving thanks honors trust and invites deeper caregiving relationships.