Meaningful and manageable personal projects supported by others contribute positively to overall well-being.
Understanding how our personal projects impact others allows for stronger relationships and a more harmonious pursuit of goals.
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The Power of Personal Projects
Personal projects are the answer to the question, what do you think you're doing? They are our priorities in life and can range from trivial pursuits to magnificent obsessions. The number of projects a person has varies, but on average, individuals generate about 15 different projects. The meaning and manageability of projects are key factors in determining their impact on well-being. Projects that are meaningful, manageable, and supported by others are more likely to contribute positively to overall well-being. However, it is important to have a balance and not solely focus on one overriding goal, as having multiple core projects or interchangeable projects can provide a better approach to navigating the complexities of life.
The Cross-Impact of Projects
Personal projects not only impact our own lives but can also have an effect on the projects of others. Understanding the cross-impact of projects allows us to explore how our projects influence those around us, such as loved ones, colleagues, or mentors. Taking into account the interaction between our projects and the projects of others can provide insights into potential conflicts or support that may arise. By considering the impact of our projects on others and finding ways to accommodate and align our projects with those around us, we can foster stronger relationships and promote a more harmonious pursuit of our personal goals.
Acting Out of Character
Acting out of character refers to situations where individuals engage in behaviors or roles that are not typical of their personality traits. While it may feel uncomfortable or challenging to act out of character, there are potential benefits and consequences to consider. Acting out of character can lead to personal growth, expanding comfort zones, and aligning actions with values. However, it is important to find a balance and have restorative niches that allow for recharge and emotional release. The choice to act out of character willingly can have a different impact compared to when it is imposed on an individual. Being aware of how acting out of character affects overall well-being and the pursuit of core projects can help in making more intentional choices and maintaining a sense of authenticity.
Award-winning researcher and pioneering psychologist Brian Little has plenty of accomplishments under his belt. He’s the author of the bestselling books “Me, Myself, and Us” and “Who Are You, Really?” His TED Talk on the science of personality has tens of millions of views and he’s been elected a Favorite Professor multiple times at Harvard. And he’s also Adam’s favorite psychologist – and personal mentor. Brian and Adam talk about how our personal projects shape our well-being, the nuances of introversion and extraversion, when it makes sense to act out of character, and what our daily pursuits reveal about us. Transcripts for ReThinking are available at go.ted.com/RWAGscripts
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