Start with Small Steps 241 -Stop Fighting Ghosts and Dragons: How Imaginary Fears Drain Our Lives
In this episode, I reflect on a powerful idea that has reshaped how I approach anxiety and overthinking: we spend too much time fighting ghosts and dragons—imaginary fears and situations that never actually happen. By sharing personal stories and experiences, I explore how these invisible battles drain our energy, damage our mental health, and distract us from solving real problems in life.
1. Understanding What Ghosts and Dragons Really Are
These are the thoughts and fears that don’t have a basis in reality. They’re the assumptions, the “what ifs,” and worst-case scenarios we invent in our minds. Whether it’s an old trauma or a new worry, these ghosts keep us on edge and steal our peace.
2. The Cost of Fighting the Wrong Battles
Fighting imaginary dangers leads to emotional burnout, missed opportunities, and even strained relationships. When you prepare for problems that don’t exist, you waste the energy you need for what actually matters.
3. Strategies for Letting Go
I share several practical tools: labeling fears with silly names, journaling to find patterns, asking grounding questions, and taking small steps to focus on the real world. These methods help interrupt the pattern of overthinking.
4. Faith, Stoicism, and Reframing
Whether it’s a verse from Matthew or a quote from Epictetus, I talk about how different philosophies help us accept what’s real and reject what isn’t. Our brains are wired to detect threats, but that doesn’t mean every alert is valid.
Takeaways:
If you’re feeling anxious about a situation, ask yourself: is it really happening, or is it just a ghost? Stop wasting energy on things that will never happen. You don’t need to fight every scary thought. Label it, laugh at it if you can, and walk away. Focus on what’s true, take small actions that make you feel safer, and trust that today’s real worries are enough without borrowing tomorrow’s. The path to peace starts with acknowledging how much power you give to the imaginary.
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