Modern Wisdom #701 - Alex DatePsych - Why Is Everyone Choosing To Stay Single?
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Nov 2, 2023 In this engaging discussion, Alexander DatePsych, a neuroscience and behavioral science researcher, dives into why many are choosing to stay single in today's dating landscape. He reveals that 50% of men haven't approached a woman in the past year due to fear and risk aversion. The conversation tackles common misconceptions about dating apps, the evolution of attractiveness standards, and why women initiate most divorces. DatePsych also emphasizes the appeal of 'dad bods' and the surprising dynamics behind compatibility and relationship choices.
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Risk Aversion and Approach Anxiety
- Men's risk aversion and fear of approaching women are linked, impacting their dating lives.
- A survey revealed a correlation between higher risk aversion in men and lower willingness to approach women.
Exposure Therapy for Approach Anxiety
- Overcoming approach anxiety in dating can be achieved through exposure therapy, similar to treating phobias.
- Repeatedly approaching women can desensitize men to the fear of rejection.
Women Approaching Men and Rejection
- Women experience a double layer of shame when rejected after approaching a man, violating social norms.
- Men rarely get approached by women, reinforcing traditional gender roles in dating.
