The Psychology of your 20s 281. Reclaim your power in dating
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Mar 7, 2025 Dating today can feel overwhelming, but personal empowerment is key to navigating it. Discover the three ways we often lose power in relationships and the consequences of feeling defeated. Learn five actionable tips to reclaim your agency and why it's essential to avoid playing games. Explore strategies for managing quick attachments and maintaining self-love amid emotional challenges. The conversation emphasizes setting boundaries and prioritizing personal needs to foster healthy connections in the complex dating landscape.
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Self-Abandonment in Dating
- Jemma abandoned herself in a 2021 relationship, prioritizing her partner's approval over her own needs.
- This led to a low point where she tolerated disrespectful behavior and lost her sense of self.
Impact of Rejection
- Repeated rejection in dating can lead to avoidant strategies and lowered self-worth.
- We internalize rejection and believe we must change to be accepted, as shown in a 2000 study on academics.
Relationship Trauma & Attachment
- Relationship trauma, like cheating or emotional volatility, can reshape attachment styles.
- Negative relational events in adulthood can shift secure attachments to anxious or avoidant ones.