How I Healed My Attachment Style (avoidant to secure)

In terms of attachment styles, I used to be a textbook avoidant. If you've ever wondered if it's possible to heal your attachment style and go from wounded to securely attached, today's episode is for you.

Spirituality is secure attachment to reality: https://open.substack.com/pub/intimatemirror/p/spirituality-is-secure-attachment

What it's like to be securely attached: https://youtu.be/hYMVbL-JkQE

The most powerful tool for shifting your mindset: https://youtu.be/XRzGthevzTs

In this video, I share my transformative journey from being deeply avoidant to securely attached. Discover the pivotal idea that allowed me to heal: 'failure is permitted.' Learn about my three-layer approach, addressing my relationship with myself, others, and life itself. Dive into the profound shifts this mindset brought in managing personal, relational, and global scopes of life. Letting go of the fear of failure has brought immense peace and growth.

Chapters:

00:00 Intro

01:02 It's not just relationships

02:06 The Big Idea

02:48 Many Layers of Fear & Resistance

03:45 Healing is Letting Go

04:12 The Ideal Life is an Illusion

06:25 Why We Hold on To Judgements

07:36 I am also people

08:34 Finding Safety in Relationships

09:50 How I Reframed Relationship Failure

11:31 Stop Trying to Save the World

13:44 Be the Starfish Guy

15:34 It's all the same insecurity

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