Love Life With Matthew Hussey (Matt Monday): The Real Reason You Haven’t Found Love (Yet)
Jul 21, 2025
Why do we often chase the wrong people and sabotage potential love? This conversation explores how past wounds influence our choices, making unavailable partners seem appealing. The discussion highlights the need to retrain our instincts for healthier connections and emphasizes self-compassion over criticism. Emotional challenges in relationships are examined, alongside an invitation to a weekend retreat aimed at personal growth and overcoming feelings of worthlessness. Dive into the dynamics of unhealthy attraction and discover paths to more fulfilling love!
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Why We Sabotage Good Relationships
- People often sabotage good relationships because they chase what feels familiar or rare rather than what's healthy.
- The brain falsely values unavailability, causing attraction to the wrong people over the "good ones."
Retrain Relationship Instincts
- Retrain your instincts to not misinterpret unavailability as value in love.
- Question automatic reactions and avoid glorifying scarcity in relationships.
Love Instincts Often Fail Slowly
- Inexperienced people instinctively blink rather than avoid punches, similar to how untrained love instincts fail.
- Poor love instincts cause self-sabotage through withdrawal, chasing, or shutting down emotionally.