How to Find Your True Self According to Philosophy

May 18, 2025

Exploring the concept of self, the discussion dives into philosophical thoughts from Freud to Sartre, highlighting how our childhood shapes our identities. The 'cool chill girl' stereotype reveals the tension between societal expectations and personal authenticity. Jung's ideas on masks and shadows shed light on our hidden selves. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own journeys towards honesty, questioning how much of themselves they truly own versus perform. It’s a deep dive into the struggle for genuine self-expression in a conformist world.

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Authenticity Is Socially Complicated

Authenticity is complicated by social pressures to conform and perform roles.
The struggle of becoming your true self often includes not knowing who that self even is.

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Childhood Shapes Personality

Childhood experiences strongly shape personality and adult behaviors.
While Freud's theory is criticized, attachment theory supports childhood's impact on adult life.

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Masks and Shadows Conceal True Self

We wear masks to survive socially, but they hide our authentic selves and create shadow sides.
Integrating these shadows is key to reconnecting with our true self.

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Modern Man in Search of a Soul

Carl Gustav Jung

In this influential book, Jung delves into key areas of analytical psychology, including dream analysis, the primitive unconscious, and the intersection of psychology and religion. He also compares his theories with those of Sigmund Freud, providing insights into the fundamentals of psychoanalysis. The book addresses the spiritual unease of modern civilization and suggests that coming to terms with one's unconscious mind can lead to mental and spiritual vitality. Jung's work challenges Freudian views on the unconscious and emphasizes the importance of spirituality in psychotherapy.

Being and Nothingness

Jean-Paul Sartre

In 'Being and Nothingness,' Jean-Paul Sartre delves into the fundamental categories of being and nothingness. He distinguishes between 'being-in-itself' (objects that simply exist and are unaware of themselves) and 'being-for-itself' (human consciousness, which is self-aware and free). Sartre argues that human beings are characterized by their freedom and responsibility, and that they must create their own being through their actions in the world. The book also introduces the concept of 'being-for-others,' highlighting the impact of others on our self-perception. Sartre rejects traditional notions of a transcendent reality and instead emphasizes the importance of individual responsibility and authenticity in human existence.

The Second Sex

Simone de Beauvoir

In 'The Second Sex', Simone de Beauvoir delves into the concept of feminism by examining historical facts, biological differences, psychoanalytic theories, and societal myths that have led to the subjugation of women. The book is divided into two volumes: 'Facts and Myths' and 'Lived Experience'. Beauvoir argues that women are not inherently inferior but are made so by societal constructs and historical injustices. She critiques the notion that women are defined as 'The Other' in relation to men, emphasizing that this distinction denies women their humanity and autonomy. The book explores various stages of a woman's life, from childhood to old age, highlighting how societal forces condition women into accepting passive and dependent roles. Beauvoir advocates for women's equality and autonomy, particularly through economic independence and the ability to support themselves through work.

The Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious

Jung, C. G.

Carl Gustav Jung

This book features many of Jung's most important essays on archetypes and the collective unconscious. It explores the idea that there is a deeper, universal level of the unconscious that contains archetypes, which are preexistent thought forms common to all humans. These archetypes manifest in dreams, myths, and fairytales, and play a crucial role in the psychological process of individuation. The essays discuss various archetypes such as the persona, the shadow, the anima or animus, and the self, and how they influence human psychology and behavior. The book also includes a pictorial section with examples of archetypal images drawn by Jung's patients, illustrating the universal nature of these symbols.

Make Believe

Poems for Hoping Again

Victoria Hutchins

Make Believe is a reclamation of wonder and an invitation to return to childlike joy, using nostalgia and memory to imagine a fuller life. The book contains both viral spoken-word pieces and new writing, guiding readers toward transformation by believing in themselves and their potential for joy and healing.

Oedipus Rex

Sophocles

Written by Sophocles and performed between 430 and 426 BCE, *Oedipus Rex* is a classic Greek tragedy that revolves around King Oedipus's quest to save Thebes from a plague. The play unfolds as Oedipus searches for the murderer of his predecessor, King Laius, only to discover that he himself is the culprit. This revelation leads to the tragic downfall of Oedipus, who blinds himself after learning of his patricide and incest. The play explores themes of fate, free will, and the tragic flaw of hubris, and it remains a foundational work in Greek drama, influencing countless subsequent playwrights and storytellers.

Big Leap

Gay Hendricks

Is the self something we find—or something we create? We’re constantly told to “be ourselves,” but the world teaches us fast that we also need to be likable, marketable, and hot. No wonder we’re all confused. In this episode, we dive into how different philosophers—from Socrates to Simone de Beauvoir to Carl Jung—understood the search for the true self and how their insights can help us stop performing and start living more honestly. If you’ve ever felt like you’re performing your personality instead of living it, this one’s for you.

EPISODE OUTLINE

00:00 Intro

05:49 Sigmund Freud

09:08 Attachment theory (Bowlby & Ainsworth)

10:55 Carl Jung’s theory on masks and shadows

12:15 The chill girl mask (Gone Girl)

13:34 Shapeshifter (MAKE BELIEVE)

14:38 The masks vs. the Self

15:04 Rousseau’s natural vs. social man

17:15 Using logic to hide from passion

17:55 For the ones who left (MAKE BELIEVE)

19:37 Freud, Jung & Rousseau reflection questions

21:48 Sartre: owning your agency as authenticity

23:08 Sartre’s concept of bad faith

24:12 Simone de Beauvoir on social class

26:41 The upper limit theory (Gay Hendricks)

27:25 But also, the playing field isn’t level

27:48 Sartre & de Beauvoir reflection questions

29:27 Heidegger: inauthenticity due to death denial

31:33 Authenticity vs. ethics and compassion

33:23 Authenticity vs. self-protection

34:01 Kant’s categorical imperative

34:48 Socrates: dying on the hill of authenticity

35:26 Socrates and Kant reflection questions

36:46 Nietzsche on creation of the true self

37:17 Does everyone have a calling?

38:19 Jealousy as a clue to your passions

38:33 The “love it for you, want it for me” folder

39:53 Nothing grows if you don’t water it

40:18 Nietzsche reflection questions

41:50 Lightning round recap

EPISODE LINKS

• Carl Jung, The Archetypes and the Collective Unconscious (1959) and Modern Man in Search of a Soul (1933)

• Jean-Paul Sartre, Being and Nothingness (1943)

• Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex (1949)

• Authenticity episode of In Our Time: Philosophy

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