123: How to Balance Out Your Desire For More (Without Settling For Less)

Aug 26, 2025

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In this episode, I talk about why desire will never stop, and why that’s actually a good thing.

I share my response to a listener struggling with perfectionism and the fear of passing it on to her daughter. I talk about the insatiable nature of feminine desire, how entitlement creeps in when we lose awareness, and why learning to appreciate even the smallest moments can change everything. I share how I practice this in my own life, from focusing on the comfort of a blanket during a water fast to letting my kids make their own choices, even when it’s inconvenient for me. And I break down how desire, when it’s met with consciousness, can become a powerful force for creation instead of a source of suffering.

You’ll Learn:

The real reason feminine desire never feels satisfied
What happens when entitlement sneaks into your relationship with desire
The surprising link between gratitude and breaking free from the addiction to “more”
How noticing tiny comforts can shift you out of overwhelm
Why teaching your kids to honor their own wants can change how your family functions
The quiet damage of living from “owe” and “deserve”
How to recognize when your desire is healthy versus when it’s fueled by fear
The practice that can help you feel fullness even in uncomfortable moments
Why coming into union with your desire is the most powerful work you can do as a woman

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction

[01:02] Navigating perfectionism and fear of complacency in kids

[02:00] Why feminine desire is naturally insatiable

[03:15] Recognizing entitlement and victim patterns in desire

[04:10] Using appreciation and the concept of “ha” to feel fullness

[05:20] Finding comfort and gratitude in small moments during struggle

[07:05] Transforming desire into life force energy and creative power

[08:00] Teaching kids to honor their own wants and choices

[09:15] Trusting desire and discerning it from entitlement and fear

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