Good Faith Dan Allender: Trauma, Trust, and the Truth About Marriage
May 15, 2025
Dan Allender, a therapist and author renowned for his insights on trauma and healing, joins in a thought-provoking discussion. They explore how past relationships shape our worldview and impact marital dynamics. Key topics include overcoming hidden triggers of conflict, the importance of empathy and kindness, and tackling contempt in relationships. Allender emphasizes the transformative power of marriage as a healing force and offers practical advice for navigating personal histories and transitions like empty nesting.
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Marriage Shapes Worldview
- Marriage serves as a primary lens through which we perceive the world due to its relational depth.
- It reveals extremity, showing both the pinnacle of beauty and brokenness in human relationships.
Trauma Fuels Marital Conflict
- We live in a fragmented, traumatized world which seeps anxiety into marital conflicts.
- External trauma activates past relational wounds, intensifying marital disagreements.
Baked Potato Triggers Trauma
- Dan and Becky argued about a baked potato's doneness, triggering past family trauma.
- Despite the minor issue, their unresolved childhood wounds escalated the conflict intensity.
