

254: Pornography and White Rice: Nourishing Your Marriage with Real Erotic Connection
What does white rice have to do with pornography? I know that sounds like a strange question, but stick with me here because this analogy completely changed how I understand what pornography does to our relationships.
I'll also share a more compassionate, Christ-centered approach to overcoming pornography habits that doesn't rely on shame or willpower alone.
Here's what we'll cover together:
• The surprising history of rice and what happens when you strip away the "bran" - and how this perfectly illustrates what pornography does to sexuality • Why shame, hiding, and secrecy actually prevent us from growing and healing • How to embrace your full sexual nature alongside your spouse instead of in isolation • A more nuanced view on sexual imagery, arousal, and discernment that might surprise you
If you've been struggling with pornography or if it's affected your marriage, this episode will offer you hope and a more loving way forward. Because here's what I've learned: building a marriage that's deeply nourishing - body, heart, and soul - requires us to understand the difference between empty calories and real intimacy.
Let's dive in.
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