Writer and author Alexandra Hudson discusses the importance of civility, the difference between politeness and civility, and the influence of figures like Martin Luther King Jr. and Larry David. The conversation explores the role of civility in protest movements, the need for genuine respect, love, and personal responsibility in democracy.
Civility is about recognizing others as moral equals and treating them with respect, even in uncomfortable conversations.
Protest rooted in love and respect can be a form of civil disobedience.
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The Importance of Civility in Society
The podcast episode discusses the importance of civility in today's society. The host interviews Alexandra Hudson, the author of 'Soul of Civility,' who shares her insights on the distinction between civility and politeness. Hudson explains that while politeness is external and surface-level, civility is a deeper disposition of the heart. She argues that civility is about recognizing others as moral equals and treating them with respect, even if it means having uncomfortable conversations or speaking hard truths. Hudson draws from historical examples and emphasizes the need for daily effort in sustaining a civil society.
The Role of Protest and Civil Disobedience
The episode also explores the role of protest and civil disobedience in promoting civility. Hudson refers to Martin Luther King Jr. and his philosophy of non-violent civil disobedience, highlighting that it was a form of protest rooted in love and respect for others. She discusses the idea that sometimes speaking truth to power and challenging unjust laws or systems can be a necessary aspect of civility. However, she emphasizes the importance of not degrading others or using violence in the pursuit of change.
Balancing Political Discourse and Everyday Interactions
Hudson addresses the challenges of discussing politics in today's polarized environment. She suggests that sometimes talking about politics less can be beneficial for democracy. She argues for finding common ground and establishing trust before engaging in political conversations. Hudson also mentions the need to reclaim non-political touchstones of meaning, such as family and friendship, to prevent politics from becoming the sole focus of our lives. She draws from the example of Larry David's character in 'Curb Your Enthusiasm' to illustrate the idea that sometimes seemingly impolite actions can serve as a check on thoughtlessness or self-interest in society.
Alexandra Hudson is a writer, public speaker, and the author of TheSoul of Civility: Timeless Principles to Heal Society and Ourselves. She joins Preet to discuss her book, the difference between politeness and civility, and the many figures that have inspired her—from Martin Luther King, Jr. to Larry David.
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