Single: More than Un-Married
Within the church, it may feel like being married is the goal. While being single is reduced to being un-married. Checking one box and not another can lead to resentment. Within the church, there can and should be a way to bring all of our gifts together.
“For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ.” (1 Corinthians 12:12)
This episode is a deep dive between two people who have a lot in common as “members of the body”- both men, both in their 40’s, both love Jesus.
Laurence Koo, our guest, is single. And Josh Glaser, our host, is married.
We hope this conversation challenges you to challenge the misconceptions and encourages you to learn from each other’s unique roles. There is intimacy and fulfillment to be found in the community around us, regardless of which box you check.
Let’s tear down the idols of marital status and start inviting people in.
Highlights:
We each have our own gift, even if we don’t want it. It’s a matter of state, not desire. I think that’s the first mistake that we made in church.
We both have a prophetic calling in this culture in who we are as human beings. In both gifts, there is so much Christ's portrayal.
Living in a fallen world means we will live with some level of unfulfillment
Homework:
Ask yourself: How can I be more of a gift to my married friends? Single Friends?
Take stock of Your Relational Health: Examine your Routines and Relationships to see how you are giving and receiving in your relationship.
Extras/Resources:
https://www.gardenofgods.com
“7 Myths about Singleness” Sam Allberry
"But I wish everyone were single, just as I am. Yet each person has a special gift from God, of one kind or another.” - 1 Corinthians 7:7 NLT
1 Corinthians 12 – Unity of the Members of Christ in One Body
Five Levels of Intimacy:
Spiritual intimacy – sharing deep, safe conversations
Emotional - being vulnerable with my hurt and pain
Social – enjoying the same activities, hobbies
Physical – experiencing non-sexual touch
Sexual – sexual closeness within a marriage
Transcription:
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Original music by Shannon Smith. Audio engineering by Gabriel @ DelMar Sound Recording.
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