Eps 397: Parenting teens while staying connected with Andee Martineau

My guest today is Andee Martineau.  

We kick our conversation off today with Andee sharing how a “baby powder blizzard” completely shifted her parenting style from correction to connection. Andee and I talk about how cool it is to watch your teens carve out their own path and how we show up for our kids. Andee shares her STEAR framework for compassionate & kind self-reflection as well as tips for broadening your emotional vocabulary. We connect over how hard & relentless it can feel when you’re trying to change your parenting style, how to start with curiosity, celebrating the journey, and getting buy-in from your adolescent. Andee and I agree that the teen years are hard, even when you’re doing all the things, and she reminds me that our childrens’ behavior does not validate our parenting. We end our conversation touching on natural consequences, screen time, parenting for the year ahead, & how much control we actually have over our older kids. 

Takeaways from the show:

• Andee’s Connect Method Parenting & STEAR framework 
• Positive Discipline & connection-based parenting is a daily choice & effort 
• Kind and compassionate self-reflection 
• Broadening your emotional vocabulary 
• Changing your parenting style can feel hard & relentless 
• “Sometimes things get worse before they get better” - Dr. Jane Nelsen 
• The teen years are hard for everyone (even when you’re doing all the things!) 
• Childrens’ behavior does not validate your parenting 
• Watching your teen or young adult make decisions & choices 
• Teens need room for natural consequences 
• Parenting for the year ahead

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