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The Twelfth House: Parenthood and The Privilege of Choosing The Conditions of Your Experiences

Apr 4, 2025
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Nuance? On the internet????

Sparked by Chappell Roan's viral "parenting is hell" discourse, this week I throw our editorial calendar into the abyss to tackle something I've been totally allergic to discussing publicly: my experience with parenthood.

You'll hear why I always dodge the parent-content pipeline, why my expectations for motherhood were subterranean (spoiler: expecting the worst is apparently my superpower), and why having a baby at 33 instead of 25 might be the ultimate "choose your hard" situation.

My experience of parenting has been like, the opposite of hell… and boy-howdy do I totally empathize with why Chappell’s twenty-something friends might find parenting to be Les Miserables. Because I’m pretty sure if I’d had a kid any time before when I did, I would have felt that way, too.

Whether you're child-free and thriving, halfway through freezing your eggs, or currently nap trapped under a somewhat sweaty but 100% adorable toddler, this episode tries to offer the rare middle ground in today's polarized parenthood discourse.

No toxic positivity, no doom-scrolling negativity — just one witch's take on how motherhood unexpectedly activated parts of myself I didn't know existed, and perhaps some ideas to think about if you’re anything like how I was pre-baby when I was still trying to decide whether to take a gamble on a new (volatile) experience like having a child or if I should just enjoy a child-free existence.

Curious to hear your thoughts in the chat!

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