The podcast explores the arrival fallacy, a misconception that achieving a goal will bring lasting happiness. They discuss personal experiences and the importance of finding contentment in the journey. The hosts explore the impact of the arrival fallacy on mindset and strategies for success. They emphasize the need to find joy in the process, balance self-acceptance and growth, and manage expectations.
Finding joy in the process rather than fixating on the end goal can bring fulfillment and satisfaction.
Detaching from the idea that happiness and contentment are solely dependent on achieving a specific outcome can reduce stress and pressure.
Building a supportive network of individuals who openly discuss the challenges and realities of their journey can provide perspective on the true nature of success.
Deep dives
Recognizing the Arrival Fallacy
The arrival fallacy is a false assumption that enduring happiness can be achieved once a specific goal is reached. This belief can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and misery when reality doesn't meet our expectations. It is important to recognize where the arrival fallacy shows up in our lives and how it is influenced by our environment and societal expectations.
Shifting Focus to the Process
Instead of solely focusing on the end goal, it is beneficial to find joy in the process itself. Embracing the journey, enjoying the small victories, and appreciating the effort and growth along the way can bring fulfillment and satisfaction. Recognizing the value of the process rather than fixating on the outcome can lead to a more fulfilling experience.
Letting Go of Attachment to Outcomes
Detach from the idea that happiness and contentment will only come once a specific outcome is achieved. Embracing non-attachment and accepting that outcomes are not always within our control can reduce the stress and pressure we put on ourselves. Make room for flexibility and be open to new possibilities rather than fixating on a single desired outcome.
Surrounding Yourself with Support
Build a supportive network of individuals who have a realistic understanding of success and have gone through similar experiences. Surrounding yourself with people who have "arrived" but openly discuss the challenges and realities of their journey can help alleviate feelings of inadequacy and provide perspective on the true nature of success.
Gratitude, Appreciation, and Celebration
Practice finding gratitude, appreciation, and celebration in everyday moments. Cultivating a grateful mindset allows for a deeper appreciation of what we have achieved and the progress we continue to make. Instead of focusing on what is lacking, redirect your attention to the blessings and successes already present in your life.
One of the biggest myths of success is that at one point we will "arrive"- That we'll eventually reach a certain milestone after which we will have a sense of enduring happiness and contentment. In this we discuss everything Arrival Fallacy. What is it? Where does it come from? How do combat it?
Join executive leadership & career coach Rikki Goldenberg, conscious leadership coach Justin Mulvaney, and licensed clinical psychologist turned creator coach Corey Wilks as we discuss all that and more.
0:00 Cold Open 1:30 Show Intro 1:52 What is the Arrival Fallacy? 2:54 Is Arrival / The Arrival Fallacy real or BS? 3:55 Our experiences with the Arrival Fallacy 13:12 Why “Arrival” is a Trap 17:25 The Arrival Fallacy in Corey’s outset into Content 20:18 How the Arrival Fallacy shows up in Content Creators, Leaders, & Professionals 36:00 The Arrival Fallacy as a result of our upbringing 38:17 What do we do about the Arrival Fallacy? 1:01:40 Wrapup
Learn more about the hosts: https://www.rikkigoldenberg.com/ https://justinmulvaney.com/ https://coreywilkspsyd.com/
Intro Music Credit: http://www.aaronwaltersmusic.com/
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