The Art of Love With Lucia How To Easily Get Your Avoidant Ex Back
Sep 4, 2025
Emotional space is crucial for avoidant partners, and the three-foot bubble concept helps them feel safe. Chasing them often leads to retreat and a frustrating hot-and-cold cycle. By respecting their need for distance, you can invite them to move closer naturally. Building self-worth fosters healthier dynamics, while the no contact rule can spark curiosity and speed up their interest. Transforming your energy during this time makes you less needy and more appealing, setting the stage for a stronger relationship.
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The Three-Foot Emotional Bubble
- Avoidants carry an emotional 'bubble' about three feet wide where they feel safe and comfortable.
- If you step into that space with pressure, they instinctively retreat to restore their comfort zone.
Step Back, Don't Chase
- Do not chase or demand reassurance when an avoidant pulls away; step back instead.
- Standing still or taking a step back gives them space and increases the chance they'll move toward you.
Use No Contact Strategically
- Use no contact to respect the avoidant's space and shake up the old chasing dynamic.
- No contact makes them wonder if they made a mistake and speeds up the process of them reconsidering the relationship.