Self-reflection expert Emma discusses the discomfort of addressing contradictions in beliefs, fear of changing one's mind, authenticity on social media, struggles in relationships, and the power of embracing growth through changing perspectives.
Maintaining consistency in beliefs and actions provides emotional stability and boosts confidence.
Fear of changing one's mind stems from worries about being perceived as hypocritical and naive.
Deep dives
The Impact of Inconsistencies on Emotional Stability
Maintaining consistency in beliefs, actions, thoughts, and feelings provides emotional stability, leading to increased confidence and better self-esteem. Discovering contradictions can undermine trust in oneself and impact self-esteem, causing embarrassment and fear. The discomfort of addressing inconsistencies can reveal deeper fears, such as the fear of change and the fear of being perceived as a hypocrite.
Fear of Changing Minds and Being Labeled Hypocritical
The fear of changing one's mind stems from the worry of being seen as hypocritical and naive. Admitting to evolving opinions can invoke feelings of embarrassment and disappointment, especially when initial strong convictions shift. Addressing changing perspectives can highlight discomfort, reluctance, and the struggle to accept the evolving nature of thoughts and beliefs.
Struggles with Stubbornness and Admitting Mistakes
Stubbornness can hinder personal growth and acceptance of being wrong, leading to fear of judgment and reluctance to acknowledge mistakes. Admitting to changing opinions in areas like music taste or social judgments can evoke feelings of embarrassment and personal reflection. Overcoming stubbornness involves recognizing the value of flexibility and openness to diverse perspectives.
Challenges in Relationships and Making Hasty Judgments
Rushing into long-term relationship expectations prematurely can cloud judgment and impact personal well-being. An early determination to marry someone can lead to overlooking incompatibilities and holding onto unrealistic fantasies. The reluctance to change one's mind in relationships can intensify the emotional strain and hinder personal growth and genuine connections.
i've noticed something about myself - in periods of self-reflection, the hardest things for me to address are contradictions and inconsistencies in my personality. and it makes sense why this is so uncomfortable to address. it's because i feel like the consistency between our beliefs and our actions gives us a sense of emotional stability. and when you find a contradiction or an inconsistency, it rattles that piece of our foundation. an inconsistency that i've found within myself recently is that, sometimes, i’m afraid to change my mind. so today, I'm going to discuss why it's okay to change our minds.