It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People Worth Repeating: High-Conflict Holiday Guide
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Nov 27, 2025 Join Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter as they tackle the chaos of holiday gatherings with high-conflict personalities. Discover key strategies like setting clear boundaries and using the BIFF method to keep conversations light. Learn how to handle tricky relatives, including narcissists, by assigning them tasks to control the chaos. They also share tips for protecting your own peace and gracefully exiting heated discussions. Whether attending or staying home, these insights will help you navigate the holidays with ease.
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Set Ground Rules Before Guests Arrive
- Prepare your guest list and set clear limits before the event to reduce surprises.
- Post a friendly sign asking guests to avoid hot topics and use it to redirect conversations when needed.
Use A 'Sitter' And Interrupt Quickly
- Assign a trained 'sitter' to manage predictable troublemakers and interrupt escalating behavior.
- Interrupt with a firm redirection like, 'That's enough — can you pass the green beans?' to change the subject quickly.
HCPs Speak From A Prewritten Script
- High-conflict people often carry an internal monologue and assume others agree with it, causing conversational whiplash.
- Expect abrupt topic shifts and avoid getting hooked into persuasive arguments that aren't genuine conversations.