Developing a Growth Mindset: Tony Stanger

Apr 11, 2022

Tony Stanger, a former Scottish international rugby player and author of 'Red Dot Parenting', shares insights on developing a growth mindset. He discusses the emotional impact of his iconic 1990 Grand Slam try and how labels can limit potential. Emphasizing the importance of self-regulation, he suggests parents focus on effort rather than outcomes. Tony highlights the power of language in fostering motivation and offers practical tips for nurturing growth behaviors in children. His experience in sports translates into valuable lessons for life and parenting.

Ask episode

AI Snips

Chapters

Books

Transcript

Episode notes

ANECDOTE

The Grand-Slam Try That Defined A Career

Tony Stanger recalls scoring the famous 1990 try that secured Scotland the Five Nations Grand Slam and how fans still approach him about it.
He describes being on autopilot during the moment and remembering the emotion more than the details.

INSIGHT

Separate Identity From Role

Tony argues identity mustn't be defined solely by what you do, because that makes failure feel like a personal worth crisis.
Separating who you are from what you do preserves resilience when careers end or setbacks occur.

ANECDOTE

From Poor Grades To First-Class Degree

Tony describes leaving school with poor grades, returning as a mature student and graduating top of his sports science class.
That turnaround taught him not to accept limiting labels pinned on you early in life.

Get the Snipd Podcast app to discover more snips from this episode

Get the app

"People will remember how you made them feel, not what you said."

This week's conversation is with the man who scored the most famous try in Scottish rugby history – Tony Stanger. He touched the ball down to secure Scotland the Five Nations Grand Slam in 1990 against England. Since retiring – Tony spent 7 years developing talent through the Scottish institute of sport and now runs a company coaching people in business – using many of the lessons he has learnt from his life in sport.

The theme of this conversation is about developing a growth mindset, and we talk about the power language and carefully calibrated questions, not letting what other people say and believe limit your own potential, the importance of self-regulation, how to promote the 5 key growth mindset behaviours and much more besides. Tony has studied Carol Dweck’s work on fixed and growth mindsets and written his own book factoring in many of its findings for parents specifically called Red Dot parenting.

Tony's website: https://stangerpro.com/

Red Dot parenting: https://stangerpro.com/product/red-dot-parenting/

A huge thanks to my sponsors, Puresport. Their range of CBD and Nootropics supplements have had a significant impact on how I sleep, manage stress, and focus throughout the day. I can’t recommend them enough. I have many friends and family who have tried their huge range of products - and now swear by them. In fact - two friends and colleagues recently tried Puresport out to help with sleep issues and aches and pains - and they are both evangelical about their products!

CBD has been shown to have benefits for anxiety, inflammation, aches and pains - and it may even be good for long term brain and heart health. Puresport are paving the way in the natural wellness market with their unparalleled range of products. I am currently enjoying their Destress oil, with ashwaganda and the sunshine Vitamin D - ideal for this time of year. Plus, their unwind capsules - ideal for relaxing and deep sleep, and their muscle and joint balm. Basically - I'm like a kid in a sweetshop with Puresport.

The good news is that Life Lessons listeners can get 20% off all full prices products with code Life20 at checkout. Head to www.puresport.co to check out their fantastic extensive range and get your 20% discount. You won't be disappointed - their products really have been a game-changer for so many people.

Follow/message me:

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/simonmundie/

Twitter https://twitter.com/simonmundie

And for the 'Mundie on Monday' newsletter - featuring three of the best Life Lessons from three years and 200 of these conversations - head to simonmundie.com (where you can also drop me an email)

Please do share this episode with anyone who may benefit, and rate and review wherever you get your podcasts. It makes a big difference and is hugely appreciated.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.