27: Loving, functional families + individuation

Observation: Late Individuation in Warm, Loving Families

Some individuals from loving and functional families may experience a delay in individuation, where they struggle to develop a distinct and separate identity from their family of origin. This process, which involves becoming mentally, emotionally, and behaviorally separate from one's family, can occur quite late for these individuals, sometimes not until their 30s or 40s. An example of this delayed individuation is seen in how they heavily rely on their parents' opinions and advice when making important life decisions, such as choosing a partner or deciding how to spend their time. These individuals may also feel hesitant to settle into their own family unit or make their own decisions during the holidays, feeling pulled to continue participating in their family's traditions instead. It's important to note that while being closely intertwined with family can have its benefits, delaying individuation can lead to a sense of friction or discomfort. Recognizing the need for individuation and cultivating a separate sense of self can help bring relief and allow for personal growth.