Somatic Consent: Touch, Boundaries & Nervous System Safety with Matthias Schwenteck

Consent isn’t just a conversation.

It’s a nervous system skill.

In this episode, I’m joined by Matthias Schwentech, founder of Somatic Consent, longtime facilitator of touch, boundaries, and ethical tantra practice, and a leader in trauma-informed relational work.

After decades teaching thousands of students around the world, Mattias developed a clear, embodied framework for understanding consent — not as rules or scripts, but as something we feel directly in the body.

Because many violations don’t happen from bad intentions.

They happen from disconnection.

Disconnection from sensation.
 From boundaries.
 From self-responsibility.

Together we explore how to rebuild “touch literacy,” reclaim personal agency, and create intimacy that feels safe, clean, and genuinely mutual.

This conversation is essential for:
 • partners
 • facilitators
 • bodyworkers
 • tantra practitioners
 • therapists
 • and anyone who wants more clarity and safety in touch

We explore:

• Why consent must be embodied — not just verbal
 • The hidden power dynamics in tantra and healing spaces
 • The difference between giving vs trying to get something back
 • How people unconsciously use touch to seek validation
 • The four pillars of Somatic Consent
 • Radical self-responsibility in relationships
 • Permission vs agreement vs obligation
 • Why “people pleasing” creates disconnection
 • Waking up the hands and developing touch awareness
 • The neuroscience of sensory inflow and the insula
 • How agenda-free touch creates deeper intimacy
 • Relational agreements that eliminate manipulation and guesswork
 • Moving from performance → presence → authentic connection

At the end of the episode, Matthias guides a simple somatic practice to “wake up your hands” — a foundational exercise that helps retrain your nervous system to feel rather than perform.

Because real intimacy begins when we can truly feel ourselves.

And from that place, consent becomes natural.

Resources:

Free Somatic Consent courses & practices
 somaticconsent.com

More somatic sexual healing teachings
 rahichun.com

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