Remember There Are Also Men Who Do Nothing And Barely Work And Still Get Women

Many men fall prey to the illusion that all women get treated like princesses who dole out sexual favors when the mood strikes them.  Don't forget about the other half of women who also exist in the inverse situation.  In my clinical experience, in unhappy marriages, half of the women do all the gruntwork and half the men do all the gruntwork.  This includes work, begging for attention/approval, dealing with moodiness, and even worrying about potential infidelity.  When you start to think as a guy that gender roles and socialization are responsible for your wife treating you poorly (in your perception or even in reality), think about all the men that treat women just as poorly or worse. This realization can help you see that it is not as much as gender as it is about a pursuer-distancer dynamic that exists independent of gender, and is related to your family of origin! Subscribe here for the next paid episode on whether men getting into shape will lead to more sex in marriage https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe 

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My Husband Does Nothing In This Marriage and I Do Everything

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