

From “Why Me?” to “What Now?”: A New Approach to Pain and Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman
19 snips Jul 8, 2025
In this discussion, Scott Barry Kaufman, a renowned author and psychologist, redefines our approach to pain and growth. He emphasizes shifting from a 'Why Me?' mindset to 'What Now?' to empower personal development. Kaufman dives into the dangers of black-and-white thinking and highlights the importance of acknowledging inner struggles as catalysts for growth. He underscores the significance of self-compassion while urging listeners to embrace their agency amidst adversity. This insightful conversation offers practical techniques for emotional regulation and reframing negative thoughts.
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Feeding Your Higher Self
- Feeding your higher self means focusing your attention and daily goals on your positive traits and goals.
- Ignoring or shunning negative parts doesn't mean they disappear, it means where you choose to place your attention matters.
Victim Mindset Dynamics
- Victim mindset is dynamic and can exist even without actual victimization.
- Recognizing when you're trapped in a victim mindset reveals personal agency for change.
Balancing Hardship with Agency
- Acknowledging real external hardships coexists with personal responsibility for growth.
- Ownership over our mindset allows us to rise above pain and hardship without blame.