Hector sits down with Shaun Emerson, Development Lead at MenLiving, to explore the raw, unfiltered truths about modern manhood. Together, they dig into the emotional weight men silently carry—loneliness, anxiety, and the societal pressure to “suck it up.” Shaun shares how his transition from tech executive to nonprofit leader reshaped his understanding of masculinity, revealing the power of community, emotional honesty, and radical self-exploration. From generational programming to relationship dynamics, the episode asks: what does it mean to be a modern man in today’s world—and how can we redefine masculinity to include strength and sensitivity? Whether you’re new to men’s work or deep in the process, this episode will challenge you, affirm you, and invite you into a deeper connection—with yourself and your brothers.

Chapters:

00:00:00 - What Does It Mean to Be a Man Today?
00:01:42 - Shaun Emerson Steps Into the Circle
00:02:31 - From Corporate Hustle to Conscious Connection
00:04:08 - Why Most Men Don’t Talk (and Why That’s Changing)
00:06:31 - Making It Normal for Men to Feel
00:10:50 - The Power of Inner Work
00:12:35 - Alone in a Crowd: The Hidden Epidemic
00:15:47 - Masculine, Feminine & the Energy Between
00:18:57 - Real Stories, Real Feelings
00:39:14 - One Last Truth & Where to Go Next

Links And Resources:

MenLiving.org
📧 Email Shaun: shaun@menliving.org
Shaun Emerson on LinkedIn
📖 Recommended Book: Rescuing Our Sons by Dr. John Duffy
Hector Santiesteban on LinkedIn
Hector Santiesteban on Twitter

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Being Vulnerable Doesn’t Make You Weak with Shaun Emerson