Explore the different archetypes of high functioning codependency and their associated costs. Discover the negative impacts of over-giving and over-doing in relationships. Learn how to encourage critical thinking and cultivate mindfulness to break free from these patterns.
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High functioning codependency can manifest in different archetypes with their own set of characteristics and behaviors.
To address high functioning codependency, it is important to practice asking expansive questions, develop mindfulness, examine resentments, and learn to surrender and accept situations that are not under your control.
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Archetypes of High Functioning Codependency
High functioning codependency can manifest in different archetypes, such as the director, entertainer, hyper helper, auto-accommodator, perfectionist, and fixer savior. Each archetype has its own set of characteristics and behaviors. For example, the director is highly capable and bossy, the entertainer uses humor to manage emotions, the hyper helper constantly helps others, the auto-accommodator constantly sacrifices for others, the perfectionist strives for perfection in all areas of life, and the fixer savior is always ready to solve other people's problems. These archetypes share tendencies of overgiving and controlling behaviors.
Disordered Boundaries and the Desire to Control
High functioning codependency is based on disordered boundaries and a bid to control other people's outcomes. It involves a desire to take over other people's problems and constantly offer solutions even when they are not needed. This behavior is often unconscious and driven by discomfort in the face of other people's suffering or messy problems. High functioning codependents feel overly responsible for other people's feelings, circumstances, and relationships. However, this behavior can be exhausting and take a toll on both health and relationships.
Steps Towards Recovery
To address high functioning codependency, it is important to take specific steps. Instead of giving automatic advice, practice asking expansive questions to encourage critical thinking in others. Develop mindfulness through meditation or other practices to create space between emotions and actions. Get clear on what is not working in your life by examining resentments and being honest about interactions with others. Learn to surrender and accept situations that are not under your control, allowing others to have their own experiences. By taking these steps, it is possible to break free from high functioning codependency and establish healthier boundaries and behaviors.
Welcome to part two of a two-part series I am doing on high-functioning codependency.
In part one, I talked about the high price we pay for over-giving, over-doing, and over-functioning. I also share my personal and professional experiences with it. If you missed it, read it here.
In this part, I break down the 6 archetypes of high-functioning codependency and give you tools and strategies you can use to free yourself from it.
When you raise your awareness of these disordered behaviors, you can change them. You do not have to live in the endless exhaustion of high-functioning codependency.