Rylan discusses his struggles with mental health and the joy of being alone. He shares experiences of festivals, solo trips, and eating alone. The speaker talks about annoying flies, people watching, and manifesting wishes in Ibiza. They also discuss navigating a mental health crisis and finding support, random topics and their relationship with the public, reflections on personal upsets, and a humbling experience after interviewing Coldplay.
Spending time alone and confronting mental health can lead to appreciation for solitude and personal growth.
Integrating and accepting both personal and public personas can bring a sense of accomplishment and gratitude in navigating fame.
Deep dives
The Rewards of Taking a Solo Trip
Rylan shares his experience of taking a solo trip to Barcelona and the positive outcomes that resulted from it. He emphasizes the importance of spending time alone and being comfortable with one's own thoughts. Rylan explains that the trip served as a reset for him, allowing him to reflect and regain a sense of accomplishment and independence.
Finding Balance Between Ross and Ryland
Rylan discusses the process of merging his public persona, Ryland, with his true self, Ross. He acknowledges that fame can be a suit of armor and a form of protection, but shares that he is now more at ease with being both Ross and Ryland. Rylan realizes the importance of integrating his personal and professional lives, and being grateful for the support and love he receives from both colleagues and close friends.
Lessons Learned About Fame and Public Perception
Rylan reflects on his relationship with fame and how it has evolved over the past decade. He acknowledges the impact the public has had on his career and expresses his gratitude towards them. However, he also discusses the challenges of fame, including the pressure to please everyone and the constant public scrutiny. Rylan emphasizes the importance of not letting negative opinions overshadow the positive and acknowledges that fame is not always as glamorous as it may seem.
Learning to Appreciate the Realness Amidst the Fabrication
Rylan discusses the paradox of fame, where the glamorous and fabricated aspects of celebrity life coexist with the reality of everyday life. He acknowledges that not everything is real in the industry and that not everyone is genuine, highlighting the importance of distinguishing between colleagues and true friends. Rylan emphasizes the need to maintain authenticity and gratitude while navigating the complexities of fame.
How good are you at being alone, both with your thoughts, and physically in public places? Rylan says that last year was the first time he really had to confront his own mental health, but doing so has helped him appreciate the joy in spending time alone.
In this chat with Fearne, Rylan talks about how he’s been able to manifest what he wanted his life to look like, and not seek permission from others when it comes to deciding what he can and can’t do. They also share experiences of whether they’ve personally found it more helpful to stop or continue working during difficult times.
Rylan’s new book, TEN: The Decade That Changed My Future, is published by Seven Dials on the 29th September in Hardback, Audio and Ebook.