PsycHacks Episode 571: How relationships work (on value)
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Nov 17, 2025 Explore the intriguing dynamics of relationships, where desire trumps virtue. Learn how our needs drive connections, with appearance of resources playing a crucial role. Discover the paradox of giving and how it can impact relationship longevity. Retaining means is essential for continuity, and failing to meet needs leads to disengagement. Orion shares methods for maintaining balance and fostering new desires to keep relationships vibrant and valuable. Understand these principles to enhance your personal and professional connections.
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People Follow Value, Not Virtue
- People approach others because they believe those people can satisfy their wants or needs.
- If you don't appear to have what others want, they won't spend time with you.
Helping Can Make You Redundant
- Giving people what they want often removes the reason they relate to you because their need is discharged.
- Satisfying needs can make you obsolete rather than secure the relationship.
Don't Rely On Gratitude
- Keep possessing means to satisfy others rather than relying on their gratitude to secure future relationship.
- Continue offering value rather than expecting past sacrifices to guarantee connection.
