The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 205: Scaffolding Felt Safety

Jan 21, 2025

Explore the vital concept of felt safety and how it can be scaffolded for children who have experienced trauma. Discover the connection between personal recovery from injury and the emotional needs of kids with vulnerable nervous systems. Unpack the complexities of rebuilding trust and safety post-trauma, paralleling adult rehabilitation with children’s emotional journeys. This engaging discussion highlights the significance of relationships in fostering a safe environment, inspiring hope for navigating challenging family dynamics.

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Establishing felt safety through nurturing relationships is crucial for children recovering from trauma, as trust plays a vital role in their healing process.

Supporting children's autonomy during recovery is essential, allowing them to make choices that contribute to their sense of safety and empowerment.

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Importance of Felt Safety in Recovery

Felt safety is crucial for recovery, whether from injury or emotional trauma. The speaker shares personal experiences of recovering from a severe back injury and highlights the impact of feeling safe during this process. They emphasize that having a supportive environment contributed significantly to their willingness to attempt challenging activities, as they felt less overwhelmed by fear and more connected. This understanding of felt safety is fundamental for both physical recovery and emotional healing in children facing complex trauma.

Intro

3min

Navigating Injury Recovery Through Relational Safety

24min

Bridging Trust and Safety in Trauma Recovery

30min

How do we help kids feel safe when they are safe? How do we help them take in the safety that exists in their life when their life experiences seem to have convinced them that nothing is safe.

Scaffolding. Yes, we can scaffold felt safety.

My recovery from a very serious back injury left me pondering the importance of felt safety in taking risks and the necessity of scaffolding felt safety.

In this episode, you’ll learn

The importance of relationship in felt safety
How even felt safety must be scaffolded for folx who don’t have a lot of experience being safe in relationship
How amazing it is that our hurt kids risk relationship at all, and how it makes sense that sometimes they won’t

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/scaffoldingfeltsafety

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