Psychologists Off the Clock

445. The Unexpected Magic of Caring with Elissa Strauss

Feb 4, 2026
Elissa Strauss, journalist and cultural critic who writes about parenting and caregiving, discusses caregiving as a source of self-knowledge and meaning. She reframes care beyond sacrifice. She reviews research on when care helps or harms, explains how men’s brains and identities shift with care, and argues for structural support that integrates care into public life.
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INSIGHT

Science Shows Mixed Outcomes

  • Research on caregiving is mixed and often biased toward clinical samples and problem-finding funding.
  • Strauss says caregiving need not be harmful and can improve health when done in decent conditions.
ANECDOTE

Quiet Activism In A Care Relationship

  • Robert Semenza realigned his marriage to support his wife with MS and practiced quiet public activism by taking her out.
  • Strauss presents him as a model who normalized dependency and helped both his wife and himself.
ADVICE

Hold The Gray, Not A Binary

  • Hold both caregiving's burdens and its joys simultaneously instead of defaulting to a single narrative.
  • Ask which sacrifices are meaningful and which deplete you, then set mindful boundaries.
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