Psychologists Off the Clock

You’ve tried reasoning with your kids, setting boundaries, and even taking away privileges, but the conflict just keeps bubbling up. When nothing seems to calm the chaos, where can you turn as a parent who’s simply worn out and craving peace in your home?For this conversation, Emily brings in guest Dr. Jonathan Caspi, an internationally recognized sibling expert and professor at Montclair State University. Jonathan offers insights from his book, Raising Loving Siblings, on the parental role in sibling conflict, the importance of sibling closeness, and strategies to manage and improve sibling relationships. Tune in if you are interested in learning about parental involvement and guidance for cultivating positive sibling relationships and reducing conflict. Listen and Learn:  Why well-meaning parents may unknowingly fuel sibling rivalry and what to do differently instead Does parental conflict fuel sibling rivalry?  Why recognizing harmful sibling behavior matters How sibling bullying hides in plain sight through avoidance, fear, and subtle signs parents often miss Why everyday sibling spats are normal, but constant conflict may signal deeper family dynamics at play Can frequent sibling fights sabotage lifelong bonds? Why perceived favoritism can fuel sibling conflict, why avoiding favoritism talk may actually hurt family dynamics, and how to handle it better How to manage sibling bickering and aggression with strategies that foster better behavior and connection How validating kids' emotions and avoiding the 'victim vs. aggressor' mindset can help resolve sibling conflicts How parents' own childhood experiences can shape their approach to sibling relationships Resources: ● Jonathan's book Raising Loving Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Help Your Kids Connect ● Jonathan’s websites: https://siblingexpert.com/author/caspij/http://www.theeasyfamily.com/ ● Connect with Jonathan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/siblingexpert/ About Jonathan CaspiJonathan Caspi, PhD, MSW, is Professor of Family Science and Human Development at Montclair State University in New Jersey. Dr. Caspi is an internationally recognized sibling expert. In addition to researching, writing, and teaching about families and siblings, he has been a family therapist for over 30 years and has a private practice in New Jersey.Related Episodes: 397. The Mindful Path to Intimacy with James Cordova 386. Parents Are Stressed: What Do We Do About It? With Emily, Debbie, and Yael 373. How to Stop Freaking Out with Carla Naumburg 369. Good News About Adolescence with Ellen Galinsky 241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Bob Bordone, a Harvard Law School Senior Fellow specializing in conflict resolution, and Joel Salinas, a behavioral neurologist and Chief Medical Officer at Isaac Health, as they explore the transformative power of conflict resilience. They delve into how navigating disagreements can strengthen relationships instead of tearing them apart. Learn about the critical role of deep listening and empathy, and how confronting discomfort can enhance cognitive resilience. Discover why embracing conflict may just be the key to sparking real connection and change.

In this engaging conversation, psychotherapist Kristin Dempsey shares her expertise as a counselor educator and author of The Harm Reduction Workbook for Addiction. She explains the principles of harm reduction, emphasizing compassionate strategies over strict abstinence. Kristin highlights how reflective listening and motivational interviewing can empower individuals in their recovery journeys. Curiosity, rather than problem-solving, is presented as a key to unlocking deeper conversations and personal growth. Tune in for insights that could reshape your approach to addiction and relationships!

Discover the vital difference between mentorship and sponsorship and how each shapes career trajectories. Rosalind Chow discusses her new book, revealing how intentional sponsorship can promote diversity and inclusion in the workplace. The episode tackles power dynamics in networking and the importance of trust, advocating for a collective approach to foster social equity. Real-life examples illustrate how sponsorship can create transformative opportunities for marginalized professionals, encouraging listeners to rethink their professional relationships.

Off-the-clockers, it's time to celebrate because Psychologists Off The Clock just hit 400 episodes! 🎉 For this special milestone episode, the cohosts wanted to pull back the curtain on the podcast: why we do it, how it’s changed our lives, behind-the-scenes blunders, keeping the podcast financially afloat, and the incredible friendships we’ve built along the way.You all sent in questions for the team, and we’re answering them! Wondering how we choose guests or which co-host gets to interview which guest? We’re revealing it all. And as an extra treat, our podcast production manager, Jai, will be joining us to chat about editing, hilarious bloopers, memorable lessons and episodes, and give you a peek at what really happens in post-production.And to close out the episode, we’re giving a huge shoutout to some of our amazing Patreon supporters who are helping us deliver the podcast ad-free and making it possible for us to continue bringing you great science-backed psychology content!So please grab your favorite drink, hit play, and come celebrate with us!Resources:  Cohost Books:  ACT Daily Journal by Debbie Sorensen: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781684037377 Autonomy-Supportive Parenting by Emily Edlynn: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781641709767  In Your Feels by Emily Edlynn: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781950785933  Imposter No More by Jill Stoddard: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781538724798  ACT for Burnout by Debbie Sorensen: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781839975370  Join our Patreon and enjoy our episode ad-free: https://www.patreon.com/offtheclockpsych POTC episodes referenced in this episode:  368. Get Better at Anything with Scott Young 315. Hot & Bothered: Menopause with Jancee Dunn 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 382. The Anxious Generation? The Conversation We Should Be Having About Kids, Technology, and Mental Health 393. Supercommunicators with Charles Duhigg 348. Sustainable Exercise with Michelle Segar 396. Public Speaking and TED Talks with Alina Nikolaou Join our community on social media:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/offtheclockpsych/ Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/offtheclockpsych Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/offtheclockpsych/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PsychologistsOfftheClock Get in contact with our Podcast Production Manager, Jai: jswpodcastassistant.com Related Episodes:1. Taking a Leap Into Something Meaningful100. Celebrating 100 Episodes300. Celebrating 300 Episodes with Us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Balancing warmth with assertiveness can feel like an impossible juggling act—too soft, and you're overlooked; too strong, and you're “too much.”Alison Fragale's book, Likable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve, offers practical, research-backed strategies to help women excel at work and in life. In this episode, you'll get to understand the science of power and status, self-promotion without the cringe, and overcoming gender biases with authenticity and confidence. We also include real-world challenges, making this discussion both insightful and refreshingly relatable.Listen and Learn:  How power controls resources, but status shapes influence and why respect is the key to real authority How women can play smart within unfair rules to spark real change The science behind being a likable badass Navigating the balance between assertiveness and warmth and finding your authentic style Overcoming biases in social and professional settings How to confidently share your wins without feeling boastful, while staying warm and relatable Resources:  Alison’s Book: Likable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve Alison’s Website: alisonfragale.com Connect with Alison on: LinkedIn Instagram TikTok Alison’s Substack: The Upper Hand with Alison Fragale Alison’s Media Page: https://alisonfragale.com/media-research/ Alison’s Hidden Brain episode: https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/how-to-win-people-over/ My WorkLife with Adam Grant episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secret-to-success-isnt-power-its-status/id1346314086?i=1000668204498 About Alison Fragale Alison Fragale is the Mary Farley Ames Lee Distinguished Scholar of Organizational Behavior at the University of North Carolina Chapel Hill Kenan-Flagler Business School. As a research psychologist, award-winning professor, international keynote speaker, and author, she is on a mission to help others — especially women — use behavioral science to work and live better. Her scholarship has been published in the most prestigious academic journals in her field and featured in prominent media outlets such as The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Financial Times, Boston Globe, and Inc. Alison is the author of the national bestseller, LIKEABLE BADASS: How Women Get the Success They Deserve. She lives in Chicago with her husband and three children, who are all named after professional athletes.Related Episodes 49. Empowering Women with Robyn Walser 107. Playing Big with Tara Mohr 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith 290. Shared Sisterhood: Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work with Tina Opie and Beth Livingston 321. Imposter No More with Jill Stoddard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this insightful discussion, Elizabeth Husserl—co-founder of Peak360 Wealth Management and author of "The Power of Enough"—explores how our relationship with money can influence overall well-being. She emphasizes breaking free from the scarcity mindset and introduces the wealth mandala exercise to shift perspectives. Elizabeth discusses the importance of open communication about finances in families and reframes money as a tool for fulfillment. Listeners gain practical strategies to nurture a positive financial mindset and prioritize meaningful experiences.

What is the recipe for developing deeper, more intimate relationships? Breaking this all down in his new book, The Mindful Path to Intimacy, is couples therapist Dr. James Cordova, who talks to Yael about how true intimacy happens when vulnerability is met with warmth and acceptance and feeling safe being your real self with someone. You’ll hear some eye-opening research, including his “relationship checkup” method and how marriage therapy has evolved to focus on both behavior and acceptance. If you are looking for ways to strengthen your relationship emotionally and physically—such as staying mindful, paying attention to one another, sexual intimacy, and making check-ins a regular habit—James has some extremely practical suggestions for you!Listen and Learn:  The true meaning of intimacy Balancing change and acceptance in relationships How can we stay open and kind when we hear something we don’t want to? How mindfulness can transform intimacy The power of vulnerability and compassion in the face of conflict and how understanding your partner leads to a deeper connection Why our ancient instincts for self-protection clash with modern relationship needs How relational flexibility can transform your relationships How do daily hurts and unaddressed issues lead to distance in your relationship? The role "marital checkups" play in keeping intimacy alive and preventing relationship drift Why is sexual intimacy such a vulnerability trigger in relationships, and how can you address it? Using the "stop, drop, and roll" practice to stay open and connected Resources: ● Books: The Mindful Path to Intimacy by James Cordova Reconcilable Differences by Neil Jacobson, Andrew Christensen, and Brian Doss● More About James:https://www.clarku.edu/faculty/profiles/james-cordova/● Connect with James on Social MediaLinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/james-cordova-1b803316aFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/DrJamesCordova/Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/jamesvcordova/About James Cordova: Dr. James Córdova is a professor at Clark University and a practicing couples therapist. Dr. Córdova’s work strives to better understand the processes that affect marital/couples health and deterioration, particularly those processes that promote greater relationship, mental and physical health. His work helps to build empirically testable approaches to therapy that foster intimacy, acceptance, and motivation for adopting healthy relational practices. Dr. Córdova’s current projects include (1) the Relationship Checkup, a relationship health checkup designed to help partners maintain healthy relationships for a lifetime, (2) observing the process of intimacy development in couples’ interactions, and (3) studying the role of emotional skillfulness in relationship health. He has a few terrific books including The Story of Mu, The Marital Check-Up, and his brand new book, The Mindful Path to Intimacy: Cultivating a Deeper Connection with Your Partner.Related Episodes: 61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values and Schemas with Avigail Lev 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Daphne de Marneffe 179. How to Be an Adult in Relationships with Dave Richo 248. Let’s Talk about Sex & Intimacy with Zoe Kors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this discussion, Dr. Alina Nikolaou, Director and Curator of TEDAI Vienna, sheds light on the vibrant world of TED and TEDx events. She shares how to select impactful speakers and the significance of storytelling. Dr. Nikolaou offers practical tips on public speaking, including how to ease transitions from rehearsal to stage. Discover why even the quirkiest ideas find a home at TEDx, and learn the art of enlivening presentations without sticking to a script.

Jennifer Kemp, a clinical psychologist from Adelaide, specializes in neurodiversity and co-authored a workbook for autistic individuals and those with ADHD. She discusses the significance of self-compassion in navigating neurodivergent experiences and emphasizes the need for understanding beyond the 'superpower' narrative. The conversation touches on late diagnoses, societal challenges, and the importance of accommodating environments. Listeners gain practical tips for setting boundaries, crafting supportive relationships, and advocating for themselves in various spheres of life.