You Are Not A Frog How to Confront Someone Without Creating Conflict (According to a Conflict Expert)
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Jan 13, 2026 Joe Weston, an international trainer and author focused on respectful confrontation, shares insightful strategies for tackling chronic niceness, which often leads to passive aggression. He discusses the difference between old and new civility grounded in respect and collaboration. Joe outlines tools to help regulate your nervous system and build a safer space for dialogue. He emphasizes the importance of reframing confrontation as a means to deepen relationships, rather than to create conflict, urging listeners to connect authentically.
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Chronic Niceness Is Harmful
- Chronic niceness is harmful when it prevents speaking truth and enables long-term harm.
- Joe Weston compares it to low-grade aggression that accumulates damage over time.
Regulate First, Then Engage
- Regulate your nervous system before difficult conversations so you can think clearly.
- Meet others where they are to keep them in the conversation and reduce defensiveness.
Friendship Confrontation Led To Delayed Gratitude
- Joe described friends enabling a man's drinking and giving him money while avoiding confrontation.
- He confronted him, faced backlash, and five years later the friend thanked him after seeking help.
