Becoming Me The Impossible Race To Be Good Enough
EPISODE 13
Have you ever felt that you had to be _________ enough (fill in the blank) in order to be loveable? In this episode I share my experience of chasing an 'ideal self' that I could never quite catch up with. The closer I seemed to come to my ideal self, the more fearful I became of failure because I believed I would be loved only if I was "good enough."
I talk about why even noble ideals can get distorted unintentionally when we use them as a means to get the love we need, and how you can begin to identify the nature of the "impossible race" that you may be running in your life.
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CHAPTER MARKERS
(00:00:10) - Introduction
(00:01:33) - Chasing An Ideal Image
(00:05:49) - Imitation vs. The Real Deal
(00:08:20) - Abundance vs. Poverty of Heart
(00:15:43) - PRAXIS. Listen. Ponder. Act.
(00:17:37) - Conclusion
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TRANSCRIPT
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REFLECTION PROMPT
Listen.
- As you listened to today's episode, what struck you? Does something resonate particularly strongly with you? What emotions or thoughts came up in response as you listened?
Ponder.
- What impossible race are you running? What are the rules you feel you have to abide by? Or the things that you have to do in order to be seen, affirmed and loved? What has been your experience of running this race so far? What words would you use to describe it?
Act.
- Try and remember a time, a place in which you did not have to run your impossible race, where you could relax and be yourself and be loved and accepted as you were.
- Where were you? Who were with you if there was anyone? What was near you? What were you doing?
For full details of this reflection prompt, please see transcript.
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Blog: Can I Ever Be 'Good Enough' For You?
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