The Angry Therapist Podcast 21 Questions You Should Ask Your Therapist with Lair Torrent - PART 2
Dec 24, 2025
Lair Torrent, a therapist and writer passionate about relationships and depth psychology, unpacks some tough topics. He dives into how unspoken hurts, scarcity fears, and past projections shape our relationships and work. Lair reveals his tendency to use work as a shield from personal pain while exploring hidden parts of ourselves and how success can amplify underlying issues. The conversation encourages listeners to confront uncomfortable truths and emphasizes the importance of action in therapy, rather than just insights.
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Small Slights Reveal Deeper Wounds
- Lair Torrent and John Kim show how small slights often reveal deeper attachment wounds and projections.
- Recognizing the real hurt beneath surface incidents helps transform reactive moments into therapeutic conversations.
Don’t Expect Money To Cure Scarcity
- Money eases strain but doesn't erase scarcity-based parts formed in childhood.
- Do the inner work instead of banking on external security to dissolve deep scarcity beliefs.
Work Can Activate Protective Parts
- Lair describes shifting into a professional part to cope with personal pain during sessions.
- That protective parts-shift lets him serve clients while it paradoxically helps him hold his own feelings.