Avoidants Propose to Their Partner When THIS Happens

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Dismissive Avoidants don’t commit because they’re pressured, convinced, or chased. In fact, those approaches usually push them further away. Commitment happens when specific emotional conditions are met, conditions rooted in their childhood conditioning, core fears, and unmet needs.

In this episode, Thais Gibson explains the real reasons Dismissive Avoidants propose, marry, and invest long-term and why these patterns often surprise people who are dating or loving them.

In this video, Thais breaks down the four core drivers behind long-term commitment for Dismissive Avoidants, drawing from attachment theory, conditioning, and years of clinical experience.

You’ll learn:

Why Dismissive Avoidants are often trying to avoid breakups more than commitment itself
How pressure triggers autonomy wounds and emotional shutdown
How childhood conditioning shapes their beliefs about relationships and marriage
Why many Dismissive Avoidants secretly fear they “can’t do” relationships
The deep shame wound that makes them fear being truly seen
The emotional needs that help dismissive avoidants feel safe enough to commit

This episode also explains what actually helps move the relationship forward, without suppressing your own needs or walking on eggshells.

✨ Key Takeaways

✔ Dismissive avoidants often fear commitment because they associate closeness with pain
✔ Pressure triggers rebellion, not security
✔ Relationship beliefs are shaped by childhood environments — not objective reality
✔ Many dismissive avoidants fear they are defective or incapable of relationships
✔ Acceptance, direct communication, and emotional stability increase safety
✔ Commitment grows when relationships feel predictable, non-shaming, and emotionally safe

⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 – What Makes Dismissive Avoidants Commit Long-Term?
00:24 – Dismissive Avoidants Avoid Breakups
02:43 – Dismissive Avoidant Don’t Like Being Pressured
03:56 – Our Perception is Conditioned by the Environment We Grew Up in
06:16 – 7-Day Free Trial Promo
07:07 – Dismissive Avoidant Fear They Can’t “Do” Relationships
09:09 – Dismissive Avoidant Fear Being “Found Out” as Shameful or Defective
10:05 – Needs of the Dismissive Avoidant
13:01 – Comment and Subscribe

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Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

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