Relationship Advice How To Love Withdrawers Well
Sep 24, 2025
Discover the fascinating dynamics of withdrawers in relationships. The hosts delve into why some partners retreat during conflict and the emotional toll it takes. Learn practical strategies to support withdrawers, such as giving them space without panic and using appreciation to counter feelings of inadequacy. They also emphasize the importance of balancing alone time and connection. Communication tips focus on sharing vulnerability instead of demands, ensuring both partners can thrive. Tune in for insights that can transform your relationship!
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Shutdown Is A Nervous-System Protection
- Withdrawers drop to a low-energy state when overwhelmed, literally disconnecting from emotions and language.
- This shutdown is a nervous-system protection, not a deliberate refusal to engage.
Party Fight Led To Honest Shutdown
- Lauren described a fight during a party when her partner said, "I literally cannot" come online.
- He warned that if he returned he'd "rage" so shutdown was his safest option.
Silence Masks Fear And Shame
- Withdrawers often feel overwhelm, fear, and shame that drive retreat rather than malice.
- Their silence can mask fear of being seen as wrong, not apathy toward the relationship.