EP 186: Helping Siblings Understand "Unfair" Parenting

Do you have kids who feel like the way you parent their sibling (the one with the worst behavior!!!) is unfair?

We’ll be tackling different topics on how to support siblings over the next month.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• The five things to consider when thinking about how to help siblings understand ‘unfair’ parenting
  • Are you parenting all your kids thru the lens of regulation, connection, and felt safety?
  • Do all your children know about owls, watchdogs, and possums (or some other way to understand the brain and conceptualize behaviors)
  • Do your school-age and older child understand vulnerable nervous systems and sensitized stress response systems (overactive watchdog and possum brains)
  • Do your children (siblings of kids with special needs) feel really, truly seen by you?
  • Is this actually more about unresolved grief (yours and/or theirs)

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It? {EP 109}
• Stress Response System {EP 94}
• What Does Vulnerable Nervous System Mean {122}
• Grief in Parenting Kids with a Vulnerable Nervous System {EP 129}
• Can I teach my kids about their brain? {EP 114}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/unfair

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